Obituary for Marion R. Wynder
“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”
1 John 4:18
Mrs. Marion Frances Spencer Robinson Wynder, the fourth of eight children was born to the union of the late George and Lillian Spencer, in Wilmington, Delaware on February 8, 1913.
Marion was the Matriarch of her family and truly loved and cared for all – family and friends. She was energized by those who visited with her in person or by telephone. She had a wonderful quality of making all who encountered her felt at ease. She was generous by nature, and loved to give to all who gave her service in any way. Finally, all who knew Mrs. Marion well knew that she fiercely guarded her independence and the right to be informed about anything that affected her right to make decisions for herself. Right up to her last days, she was giving orders and expecting them to be carried out, just as she had instructed.
Marion was strong in her faith and belief in God. She joined the Methodist Episcopal Church, now known as, the United Methodist Church, at an early age. After her marriage to Charles Wynder (deceased) she transferred her membership to Brandywine Trinity United Methodist Church and became active in every facet of the church. This included serving as Communion Steward for many, many years. She continued to serve until her physical limitations created a hardship. Nevertheless every morning you could find her meditating with God as she read her Bible, the Upper Room, and Guideposts. On Sundays, she worshiped with specific services on TV until her pastor, Reverend Jonathan Whitney, accompanied with his wife, as she would say, and I quote “they bring church to me – we pray, sing, have scripture, sermon and we commune on the first Sunday.”
Marion was an extremely active and dedicated member within the Prince Hall Family of the Jurisdiction of Delaware, for more than fifty (50) years, having joined Adah Chapter No. 1, Order of the Eastern Star, in 1960. Marion had a burning desire to learn all she could about the Eastern Star, in particular her Chapter, this led her on a journey to become Worthy Matron. Following her tenure as Worthy Matron, she served St. Matthew’s Grand Chapter, Inc., OES/PHA, as Grand Marshal of the East, member of the Annual Session Housing Committee and wherever else she was asked to serve. She most enjoyed helping to prepare Communion for the Sunday morning worship service on the closing day of the Annual Session. In 1992, then Grand Worthy Matron Naomi Young, honored, Past Matron Wynder by bestowing the title of Past Grand Worthy Matron upon her, for her many years of faithful and meritorious service to St. Matthew’s Grand Chapter, Inc.
Marion’s service to the Prince Hall Family did not end with the Order of the Eastern Star. She continued to serve the Family as a dedicated member of Suakim Court No. 54, DOI. Of course, being a dedicated member was not enough, and she subsequently assumed leadership as its Illustrious Commandress of her Court. She later received an appointment from the Imperial Court, DOI, to serve as Imperial Deputy for the Desert of Delaware. For a period of time, there was not an Order of the Golden Circle in the state, but when Delaware Assembly No. 43, Order of the Golden Circle was organized, she became one of its Chartered members.
Marion was preceded in death by her mother, Lillian Spencer; father, George Spencer; three brothers, George W., Eugene William and William Henry; four (4) sisters, Sylvia Louise, Pearl Elizabeth, Grace Margaret and Helen Josephine and her husband, Charles Wynder.
She leaves to cherish her memories, a loving, caring and devoted daughter, Jane R. L. Robison (Charles P.); grands; great grands; a special daughter, Arva Jackson, a childhood friend of Jane’s; a host of nieces, nephews, special friends and those affectionately recognized as, other daughters, sons and grandchildren.